Let's face it: relationships often make us crazy. At certain key moments, our interactions with our beloveds can drive us right up the proverbial wall. At their best, healthy partnerships force us to confront our feelings and to know ourselves better; they can make us into better versions of ourselves. Unfortunately, the critical, angst-driven moments are the ones that we tend to remember.
But what if there were a rhythm to the rhyme of our day-to-day interactions with our lovers and significant others? What if we could get some advance warning about petty arguments and even know when it’s best to bond? There is indeed a discernible pattern, and figuring it out is as simple as paying attention to the cycles of the Moon.
When the Moon is full, energy is high and emotions are palpable. This is when the collective level of crazy is turned up to full volume. Doctors and nurses claim that hospitals are busier on full Moon nights, and there is now scientific evidence that we don’t sleep as well when the Moon is full. In the three days leading up to the full Moon, this intense, palpable energy is building (waxing), and you and your partner may have heightened feelings of angst. This is not the time to bring up issues like unpaid bills or other stressful subjects that will surely end up in an argument.
Instead, near the full Moon, schedule a date night. When lunar energy is at its height, you often feel sexier and your libido is super high. If making enough time for sex has been a point of contention in your relationship, the full Moon can be your ally. It’s great for connecting to your most passionate, animal nature. Go out dancing or take a leisurely moonlit walk with your lover. You’ll likely end up in bed and your sex life can be hotter than any other time of the month. You’re both feeling wild and adventurous now -- don’t let this phase go to waste!
The new Moon is a different animal. It’s better for starting new ventures and attending to problems that need to be fixed. Because emotions are less volatile during the three days leading up the new Moon, choose this time of the month to have a sit-down at the kitchen table about finances. Have a long talk about problems in your relationship now, if you must. You’re both likely to feel calmer and more rational now, and less likely to fly off the handle. Even if a difficult issue comes up, you can probably handle it with grace and calm if you schedule it near the new Moon. Consider this the healing and repairing time for your relationship.
Since new Moons and full Moons are always two weeks apart, your relationship will ebb and flow with the lunar energy each month. But now that you know how to plan for the inevitable ups and downs, your relationship can reap benefits from the magnificent Moon!